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So, I’ve been doing this life coaching thing for quite some time now. What I’ve found to be very interesting with many of my clients, who are stuck in a place of lack, pain and suffering, is that they are totally lovely, kind, huggable and compassionate people. The problem, most of the time, is that these wonderful folks give and give, but never to themselves. They are kind and generous to everyone else, but not to themselves. This is a very tricky situation. Because, until they fully love and take care of themselves, what they put out is kinda tainted. Like tainted meat, for example. It looks and tastes delicious. But then later, the receiver gets food poisoning. Why? The meat was tainted, poisoned. Why, how?  Because the giver, on the inside, is totally negative, poisoned.  You cannot be poisonous/negative to yourself and then expect the energy you put out to the Universe and to others not to be infected – it’s the same stream of energy.

 So, what am I getting at, you ask?

Be Good To Yourself
I’m getting at the very important concept of self-care and loving oneself first. You cannot possibly give out, what you do not have or give to yourself. How can you fully love or receive love when you do not love yourself? How can you expect abundance when you do not treat yourself well?  You only receive back from the Universe what you put out. How you treat yourself, sends out a message as to what you think you deserve, and how you expect to be treated. No one is gonna treat you any better than how you treat yourself, and even if they tried you’d probably not allow or accept it. If you received a compliment you’d probably think you don’t deserve it.

I know. I’ve been there. So glad I got over it! I deserve and expect the best. And so do you!

Yep, I too used to think that only the wealthy few could afford to indulge in exceptional self-care on a regular basis, and that the rest of us “regular” folk would just have to save up for a pampering. And even then, only on a special occasion like a birthday. But, thankfully, I came to realize that it actually works in reverse: you attract the wealth , abundance and opportunities simply by taking excellent care of yourself and treating yourself well, first. Not later, when some such condition occurs. Because, until you yourself start treating yourself like a queen/king, that day isn’t coming.

Impress Your Subconscious
See, when you take better care of yourself, you start impressing the subconscious into believing that you are worth more. As you do this, you transmit to the Universe that you deserve more, and so you attract and receive more. You only receive and have what you think you deserve to have. As you believe, so you receive. This is a truth of all truths.  The operative state of mind must be belief, not mere hoping or wishing. Wishing, is tainted with doubt, which then weakens your intention, expectancy and result.

The most effective way then, to prepare yourself to get what you want is to start doing the things you currently think you don’t deserve or can’t afford. Kick it up a notch and push it up a level. Think outside your box and limits. You have to stretch and expand your boundaries of expectation. Cue The Jefferson’s theme song here. :0) “Well, we’re moving on up, to a deluxe apartment in the sky!”

Trust Means Making The First Move
You could waste an entire lifetime thinking, “Oh I’ll do such and such when I win the lottery.” No, YOU have to make the first move. As soon as you start acting like you deserve and expect more, the Universe responds accordingly. If you choose to buy generic bread every day, why would the Universe think you’d rather have a loaf of artisan bread?  If you want artisan bread and buy it, you will suddenly find yourself able to afford it. The Universe gives you the money for whatever  you choose. So, judge and choose not in accordance to your bank account,  that’s a prison for your mind. Choose by your true preferences and the money will come. You have to make the first move. It takes trust. What does it say on your dollar bill? In God We Trust. The Universe reimburses. It will never happen the other way around – like I said, you could waste a lifetime in lack, thinking so. Expand your mind and imagination to expand your life.

So, begin focusing on what you want, not on the money it would take to buy it. So what is something you can actually afford to do right now, but seems like a total unwarranted luxury and splurge? Do it! Expand your world and experience! No matter how little or how much money you have, there is something you can treat yourself to this week.  Something, that gives you the feeling of abundance. When you treat yourself, you express self-love, self-worth and care, and in doing this you purify your inner stream, releasing the toxins of unworthiness and negativity. Why do others deserve more than you? They don’t!  When you love and care for yourself, the love/energy you give out is sweeter and purer. Sweet, untainted positive energy attracts more of the same.

Hmmm. How will you treat/love yourself? I’d love to know, send me an email. I think I’m gonna take a warm bubble bath sprinkled with red rose petals, and I’ll light votive candles along the edge of the tub, just because that sounds so extravagant on a random Tuesday evening. Especially when a shower would do the same thing. But would it? Sure a shower would get me clean and warm me up, but would it have the same feeling of luxury and specialness?  No, it would simply be efficient and utilitarian, served from a make-do attitude. So, a regal soak it shall be! It’ll be my treat for getting this newsletter out. And, I deserve it, regardless! And…. so do you. ;0)

FOLLOW-UP ARTICLE: 10 Ways To Love and Care For Yourself

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Tags: abundance, kindness, law of attraction, self-care, self-esteem, self-growth, self-help